Happy Mother's Day to everyone!
I began this post
wanting to remind people that not everyone has their actual Mama with them in a
tangible way, and for anyone reading this who has lost their mom in some way,
I'm sending you love and warmth and hugs. Things
happen and we don't always know why, but what we have is our journey to get
there. I hope yours is filled with many Mom figures--be it your
biological or birth mom or other loving people who step in as needed to fulfill
being people you can call your
MOMS: Mentor, Open-hearted, Motivational, Support.
Some of us have
dads who are moms. Some of us have grandparents who are moms. Some of us have
siblings who are moms. Some of us have teachers and advisors and friends who we
see as a mother figure.
MOMS come in all
shapes, sizes, and forms. Some of us are so blessed to still have our mommas
with us, and I hope to never take that for granted.
Feel free to send these acronym MOMS & MAMA pictures to your MOM & MAMA! We all have someone who is our MAMA--our Mentor, our Audience, a Mastermind creater and planner, & Ageless with their wisdom, kindness, & love. Moms transcend time.
Even though I
began writing this with the intention to give shout-outs to friends who became
new mothers, friends who stepped in to become mother figures, mentors who have
taken me under their wings to help guide me, strong friends who have lost their
mothers, and people who are working/serving others on Mother's Day…I started
thinking about my own Mama and getting teary. I have to share a bit about how
magical she is while I have the chance.
Every Mother's Day (which really is every day,
truthfully), I think about how lucky I feel to have such an amazing Mama!
She really rose, against all odds, to raise us in such a safe, loving, &
Sometimes, I feel
bad because Mama gave up her career to stay at home and raise us (lest her
mother-in-law proclaimed she would move in to "help"…and Mama was
like, "No, that's okay." Lol. #IGotThis). She's so magical and
multi-talented, she could really do anything she wanted to. But since Mama
became a Homemaker, my sisters and I knew that she got disrespected A LOT
by other people who tried to make her feel bad or selfish for not working a
"traditional" job. What does that even mean, anyway?
Moms do it ALL! More than people can fathom.
Mama did everything. On top of giving birth to 3
daughters (sans epidural, btw), we were each 2 years apart…meaning she was at
home with 3 kids ages 4 and under: an observant & judging baby (Angelica),
an overconfident & extroverted 2-year old (me), and a young brainiac-genius
toddler (Lizzy). Lol writing that makes me laugh inside because that still
sounds like us.
Even if other kids
(even adults) made fun of us or were condescending or belittling towards us,
Mama taught us the inherent beauty of being unique and being proud of yourself
no matter what others say. It's honestly thanks to Mama that I embraced self-acceptance
and authenticity so early on. She's been through a lot, and I have no idea how she's so
stayed at home, people were tempted to paint her as uneducated, even though she
got her degree before the same people who made fun of her. Because our Papa is
an aerospace engineer, people would give him credit for being the reason why we
were smart or good students, and it's like: First of all, my parents were
complete partners in raising us and it was a team effort; and second of all,
Mama stayed home to raise us, so obviously we'd be influenced by her. It annoys
me when people are so eager to attribute what they see as a "good"
trait to only one parent because they don't want to believe in the capabilities
of a housewife. If Mama's end goal was to make lots of money, she wouldn't have
left her career. Her goal was to instill in us
values that money can't buy.
Whether she gets recognition or not, Mama always gave
her best to us every day because that's who she is. She set such a
positive example for us to not rely on other people to prove your strengths.
No matter what other people think you can do, YOU KNOW
what you can do, and that's what matters. Hold on to that, keep being
authentically you, and time reveals all else. Dig deep, be true to yourself,
and do the best you can do every day.
Remember: Who run the world?
Happy Mother's Day to all of the Mama figures in your
I love you, Mama! Thank you for being our Mama.
Have a good story about your Mama? Tell us about it in the comments!
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